Dear Future Moms

Dear Future Moms:

I’ll be the first to tell you that your new journey is going to be HARD. It’s not always going to be rainbows and butterflies like social media makes it look. It’s not for the light-hearted. But it’s also going to be the absolute best and most rewarding journey of your life. You will love harder than you’ve ever loved before. One of my friends who is a brand new mom messaged me recently on the verge of a breakdown and said “No one told me it was going to be this hard”. The truth is, there is no way to ever warn or prepare someone for how hard motherhood is going to be. Plus, if we were 100% honest about it, no one would have kids. It will challenge every fiber of your being to the core. There will be days you feel so defeated and alone you won’t be sure if you’re going to make it through the day. But you will. And it will make you a much stronger person than you ever knew you could be. I’m here to tell you that it’s not going to be easy by any means, but it is beyond worth it.

You will cry LOTS of ugly tears.

You will lose some of your hair, and it won’t grow back for years – I’m still waiting 19 months later.

You will feel so fat you wont want to leave your house. Nothing will fit right.

There will be days you don’t even recognize yourself anymore – physically or mentally.

You won’t shower or shave nearly enough.

You will inhale your food and drink in the kitchen where your toddler can’t see you to beg for it, and you wont even taste it.

Or you will just go all day without drinking a thing, and wait until the baby is in bed because that’s easier.

You will hide in the bathroom just to take a few minutes for yourself.

You will have days when your partner walks through the door, and you just say “Here you go, I’m done.”

The laundry will pile up.

The dishes will pile up.

Your house will look like a tornado went through it, minutes after you finally cleaned it. Every. Single. Day.

Your kid will play in the toilet water. Just hope the last person flushed.

Your dog will eat poop off the floor while you’re trying to potty train your toddler.

You will contemplate leaving a cart full of groceries an hour into your shopping trip because your kid is screaming bloody murder and you’re on the verge of a complete breakdown.

You will finally make it to the store to get diapers, lose your phone in Target, find it, get home just to realize you left a bag there.

You will feel like you want to give up some days.

And you know what? That’s all okay. You will get through it. You are not alone!

Just know that when the time comes and your kid is screaming at the store, and you want to leave your cart full of groceries and run… don’t. Keep going. And when you pass another mom, keep your head up and know she’s been there too, and isn’t judging you one bit!

xo, Amy

9 thoughts on “Dear Future Moms

  1. OH MY GOD, the hair loss is too real. & like, will my lady parts ever be the same? The older my babe gets, the less gets done around the house & it’s so good to have a reminder that we aren’t alone! I started my blog because I felt like I was losing myself to the new parenting role & wanted to be able to express myself, as myself & not as just a mother! This rings so true for me & I have experienced most of these things right along with you! Xoxo!

  2. This truly resonates with me as a new Mom. More women need to read and be told about the REAL struggles of motherhood, and to know they are not alone! Thank you!

  3. Totally agree with every single one of those points. They happen and nobody is judging. My kids think it’s funny when I say I need a timeout just for a moment.

  4. Great article. I have 4 kids, and the hardest was with my 1st- I simply never knew how hard it was. I think our beliefs about motherhood are subconsciously formed by watching the women in our lives as we grow up. For me, my mom was a kind, quiet woman who is an “acts of service” person, some may say she was even a doormat. She was a flight attendant and my dad (pilot) and her hired live in au pairs to watch us when they were away. In short, she had a much different lifestyle than I did, and so I never knew how hard being a stay at home mom was. I never got to see her handle the difficulties of being with kids ALL day, not having a job to go to or adults to reset your perspective on loving your kids, or even what to do when my kids were having meltdowns, anyways, thanks for sharing, I think being honest really helps moms who are struggling and need to know they aren’t alone! 🙂

    1. Love this! I thought I was alone in this for a while because none of my close immediate friends have kids, so I started writing this when I was in the dark about it all. Blogging has definitely been a therapeutic outlet for me, and it makes me so happy to hear when others can relate and know we aren’t alone! xo

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